So, I came across this advice column that really got under my skin. It jolted me out of my perfectionism rut and nudged me into writing my first article. What triggered me? A woman in her 70s spilled her feelings about feeling snubbed in her marriage in a recent Morningstar column.

Let’s get into it.

Imagine this: You pack up and move to another country to be with your partner, footing most of the bills – understandable if that’s your arrangement.

Now, here’s where it gets messy. You decide in your will that if you pass away first, your property and half of your US Social Security will go to your husband – fair enough. But take a look at your husband’s will, and there you have it! Everything is set to go to a cousin’s 10-year-old grandson, leaving you high and dry.

The advice columnist downplays it, saying it’s all good. Hold on, not in my book.

Let’s break it down: You make this life-altering move, carrying most of the financial load, and even throw your husband into your will. Meanwhile, he hasn’t made the same sacrifice, doesn’t reciprocate the effort, and forgets about you in his will.

And don’t forget the 10-year-old wildcard. The age that he will be when receiving this inheritance doesn’t matter – what matters is your husband prioritizing his family legacy over your well-being, completely disregarding the mountains you moved to be with him.

In essence, you’re not just investing in the present but also securing his future even after your passing, yet he’s not reciprocating the same concern. It’s not solely about financial destitution, as you’ve made it clear that you won’t be left in dire straits if he were to pass first. The crux lies in his apparent disregard for your welfare in his plans. While you’re putting considerable effort into this relationship, he seems to be falling short when it comes to acknowledging and safeguarding your well-being, both now and in the future.

Take a step back and look at the bigger picture of your relationship. Neglect in significant matters often mirrors smaller, daily neglect. Maybe that seemingly perfect life you’re painting hides subtle egotistical acts. Red flags usually don’t come alone; they bring friends. Recognizing them could be the first step to a healthier relationship.

In conclusion, the issues you’ve brought to light are significant. Whether this prompts a reassessment of your relationship or simply serves as a wake-up call, dealing with these concerns is crucial